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  1. Divorce and Financial Credit: What you don’t know can hurt you!

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    JoAnneFiore
    You have struggled with the emotional and psychological issues of our divorce and now it’s time for the financial side. You have assessed your outstanding credit obligations as well as your assets and have decided to divide them equally, each of you walking away with the responsibility of paying off specific debt. You think you have finally come to an agreement so you settle and move on to start a new life. You work hard over the next few years and start putting money away to get you a new home. You think you’ve made it, found a perfect opportunity, so you go to the bank and ask to qualify for a mortgage, then comes the bad news “you don’t qualify due to poor credit history”. How can this be? You have paid everything off and your spouse should have taken care of his/her share, or have they? This can be devastating news when so much time has been spent trying to get your life back in order. So what went wrong and how cold this happen?

    Financial matters are one of many issues that can drive couples apart. Often one partner is the spender while the other is far more frugal and watches every penny. You can also have two parties just as equally devoted to their finances but with one individual less knowledgeable who just goes along faithfully with whatever their partner agrees to. Whatever your situation is unless you understand your assets as well as your credit obligations in the marriage you could be in for a big surprise.

    During your marriage you and your partner will apply for credit cards, share lines of credit, take out a mortgage, sign on car loans, and hold various other joint liabilities such as “buy now pay later plans”, and possibly investment loans. All these facilities get reported to the credit bureau on a regular basis from the respective lenders. The credit bureau also keeps track of other mutually responsible transactions like cell phone plans, legal judgments against you, collections, as well as bankruptcies and consumer proposals. So what does this mean? All this reporting and updating is being done to establish your individual credit worthiness or ability to repay debt. This comes disguised in the form of a credit report and further revealed as a credit score to would be lenders. So why is this important?

    When both partners are disclosing their respective assets and liabilities, many times they forget items that ere taken out years before and have never been used or loans that may have been signed for but now don’t recall the transaction. So you both decide that your agreement will make each party responsible for the pay down of specific debt, normally if it’s a debt associated with a particular asset like a car, it will go with the individual who keeps the car. The problem however, occurs when both parties have jointly signed on a credit obligation and only one of you agrees to keep up the payments. If you signed on that car loan as well, then what happens if your partner stops paying. Although you think you have an agreement in principle your lender will not see it that way and should your partner stop making payments not only is their credit rating affected but so is yours. Those cell phone agreements, maybe both of you signed on the contract now one of you rakes up a huge bill and decides not to pay for it, you guessed it, it becomes you problem as well. That joint line of credit you took out years ago and never used and forgot about, guess what the other party has now decided to use it and not pay it back, you may not get those collection calls because you may have relocated but that first visit to the bank will give you a new reality check. All these lapses in repayment and unpaid credit wreak havoc on your credit rating as well as your credit score, which is an indication of your worthiness to potential lenders. In other words, can they count on you to repay the debt on time and without missing any payments? So how do you protect yourself?

    The first step is get informed, understand what family liabilities exist on your credit report, order a copy usually a paid copy is best because this will give specific details on the type of liability and the ownership of that liability whether it is individually held or jointly held. This is often not undertaken by either party and leaves open the possibility of not reporting or closing out old and unused joint credit, leaving an opportunity for potential misuse by either party. Do an inventory on all the credit cards, lines of credit, purchase plans and other charges against your name. If you need help, see the assistance of a Financial Divorce Specialist to help you make sense of it all and guide you through the process.

    For all joint liabilities, you will need to make sure that the lender will either re-write you out of the loan or credit obligation and if not you will need to make arrangements to get this facility paid out from family assets and closed. You take a big credit risk by not doing this because you will not be able to protect yourself should the other party not fulfill their end of the bargain leaving you with deteriorated credit and the inability to borrow, rent or with the employers wanted credit checks more often could keep you from getting a job. This holds true for your mortgage as well, make sure it is re-written and that the individual keeping the home can qualify to carry it on their own, other wise you may have no option but to sell the property. Don’t leave yourself exposed to potential credit meltdown, know where you stand and don’t just settle…Settle Smart!

    Jo-Anne Fiore, BA, CFP, RRC, FDS
    Smart Split Divorce Solutions

    Profession: Financial Divorce Specialist, Family Mediator
    Tel: 647-367- 9229
    jfiore@smartsplitdivorce.com
    www.smartsplitdivorce.com

  2. Kevin O’Leary’s Cold Hard Truth on Collaborative Divorces

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    By Meredith Cox

    Kevin O’Leary is everywhere.  On the internet, on the radio, on bookshelves and on television (Dragon’s Den, Shark Tank and The Lang & O’Leary Exchange). In his new book, Cold Hard Truth on Men, Women & Money, Canada’s financial guru shares his opinions on just about everything from the use of Botox and fillers to “How to Spot a Gold Digger”.  He says we should repair our finances and not our faces.  Good to know.  He insists rich people need a prenup because good looking gold diggers are willing to date a person who is a lot older, uglier and wealthier than they are for profit.  No shock there!  We can all silently come up with tons of celebrity and real life examples.  Hmmm…

    The book’s brutally honest dissection of our relationships with each other and money makes a lot of sense.  As I read through the chapters relating to each stage of life, I reflected on where I might have gone wayward. I thought hard about the perils of “Ghost Money” (lattes, lunches and glossy magazines).  I inwardly promised to do better and congratulated myself on the smart decisions I had managed to implement so far.  From now on the balance in my “Money Karma” account will be on a perpetual upswing.

    As a Family Lawyer, I was pleased to learn Mr. O’Leary also has strong views on the merits of Collaborative Divorce.  Unlike the traditional litigation model, collaboratively trained lawyers are not adversaries.  They will work with you and the other lawyer to obtain the best outcome possible for your family.  In his analysis of how to fix or prevent various money mistakes available to us as we go through life, he gives a concise prescription for avoiding the twin legacies of agony and financial bleeding that can go along with divorce court.  I have broken it down into two categories:  no cost self-help and outside help you have to pay for.

    SELF-HELP AND YOUR CHILDREN

    1.  Be compassionate and respectful to your spouse.  Don’t let rage and jealousy cloud your judgment.  You might end up spending more money.

    2.  Do your own research on the law and the process that will work best for you.

    3.  Get and organize all your financial information.  Make your own copies to save money.

    4.  Money you have set aside as RESP’s for the children should remain in place for their benefit.

    5. Put your children’s needs first.

    OUTSIDE HELP

    1.  Don’t try to divide your assets without getting some professional help.  It can be complicated.  Property settlements are permanent.

    2.  Get lots of counselling from a mental health professional.  Stay in counselling.

    3.  Find a collaborative lawyer.  Consider mediation.  Avoid going to court.

    Meredith Cox
    Sweatman Law Firm
    11-1400 Cornwall Road
    Oakville, ON L6J 7W5
    Profession: Family Law Lawyer 
    Tel: 905-337-3307
    Fax: 905-337-3309 
    meredith@sweatmanlaw.com 
    www.sweatmanlaw.com
  3. The “Gray” Divorce

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    Kathryn Jankowski

    By Kathryn Jankowski

    People of all ages divorce but there seems to be a rise in the percentage of people who are  divorcing later in life.  Why does that matter?  The one very profound fact is that when you are left with half of your wealth it may not be enough to support the retirement lifestyle that you’ve worked so many years to accomplish.  With half of the retirement income gone to support your spouses income needs, ‘gray’ divorcees may have to look for other alternatives for income such as going back to work or taking in a boarder to two.

    ‘Gray’ divorcees have less time to recover financially so their financial needs become a big motivating factor in their life.   Because they realize that living with someone is less costly than living alone they may be drawn to find someone to co-habitate with or they may even consider remarriage for financial reasons.    These options may bring about a whole host of other considerations such as how to co-habitate or remarry while ensuring that your new spouse doesn’t have a foothold into your children’s intended inheritance.

    Depending on where ‘grays’ live, sometimes downsizing the family home home and moving to a more rural community could be an answer.  Of course, this brings a host of other issues such as proximity to children or other important family members as well as having to find new friends to socialize with in an environment in which there is no familiarity.

    The golden years may not be looking so golden!  Of course,  I’m biased when I say that a good financial planner can go a long way in ensuring the right choices are considered.  I would also suggest seeking legal advice before co-habitating or remarrying to ensure you aren’t in a position to have to share your half of your half!

    Kathryn Jankowski, B.A., CFP, FMA, FDS, FCSI
    Vice President, Financial Divorce Specialist

    26 Wellington Street East, Suite 710
    Toronto, ON  M9B 2Z5
    416-640-8591
    kjankowski@tewealth.com

     

     

     

     

     

  4. The Emotional Divorce

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    by Fareen Jamal

    “What separates those who can obtain a smart divorce from those who can’t is this quality of being prepared to move on. They’ve done their mourning, to the extent that mourning is involved. And they have come to recognize that they are not victims. ‘This is what life has to offer. So let’s move on.”

    ~ Jeffery Wilson, cited in Deborah Moskovitch, The Smart Divorce, (Chicago: Chicago Review Press, 2007).

    Often, couples fail to properly address their grief following the breakdown of their relationship and the loss of their marriage. The grief of losing a life shared, your identity as a couple, your security and even your beliefs  If you fail to come to terms with the fact that you are divorcing emotionally from life as you know it, the legal process of divorce can become almost impossible. I have had many a file where the parties’ inability to let go of their anger blinded them from noticing the damage their decades of litigation had on their children and personal lives. They were going through the legal divorce failing to address their emotional divorce.

    Failure to identify this grief and to deal with it constructively can result in a long, arduous and expensive legal process.

    Arnold Schwarzenegger comments on the emotional impact of his divorce from Maria Shriver, after he fathered a love child with the couple’s housekeeper, in his upcoming book, Total Recall: My Unbelievable True Life Story. The New York Daily News revealed that Mr. Schwarzenegger continues to believe that he is in denial and still hopes for a reconciliation with Ms. Shriver.

    Divorcing couples must acknowledge that a divorce can divide assets and liabilities, and arrange for child or spousal support but it cannot punish your spouse for his or her bad behaviour during or after the marriage. It cannot guarantee that your support payments will be made or that access schedules will be smooth and problem-free. It cannot make your spouse change, nor will it return your life to the way it was.

    Collaborative family lawyers recognize and address the grief. Perhaps you need to give yourself a period of mourning. Then focus on how you want your life to look. Create a strong support network and recognize that you are not alone. Professional help through parenting experts, financial specialists and therapists can also help regain control of your life. Collaborative family lawyers routinely draw on other experts to assist in the process.

    As you deal with your grief, it will become easier to make legal decisions that are in your best interest. Divorce with dignity, and move on. And find a process that will support you in doing so.

    Fareen Jamal
    Bales Beall LLP
    2501-1 Adelaide Street East
    Toronto, ON
    M5C 2V9

    Tel:  416-203-4538
    Fax: 416-203-8592
    fjamal@balesbeall.com